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Finding comfort through beauty

This week has been a bad one, full of grief and disappointment. But every time I look at this painting by my ten year old niece, Matilda, I’m reminded me that life is ever changing, nothing remains the same. This sadness won’t be with me forever. Feelings change and all I need to do is […]

Kindness that costs

Michael Lloyd-White, CEO of World Kindness USA, explores the definition of kindness in his upcoming TEDx talk, and it got me thinking. Lloyd-White dismisses the acts of kindness we might perform for friends and loved ones because they don’t push us out of our comfort zone. Instead, he challenges us to find the time and […]

What a woman!

I fumed as I watched Josie Rourke’s Mary Queen of Scots on the weekend, silently railing against the violence, deceit and betrayal of Queen Mary by the men closest to her – her brother, her husband, her private secretary and finally, her protector. But I was also touched by the beauty of certain moments within […]

Picture this…..

I’m relaxing by the Barwon river one perfect morning last week. I’m all by myself with no kids or commitments, the sky is blue, the air is still, it’s warm, the tide is out and I’m watching six or seven different species of birds as they sit or quietly seek food together. I’m fascinated by […]

Freddie

It’s Christmas Time

Robust conversations with good friends are one of the great pleasures in my life and this one was no exception. We had been talking about how Bohemian Rhapsody, especially the final scene where Freddie Mercury comes out and claims the stage at the Live Aid concert at Wembley Stadium. My friend is of the understanding […]

Follow the leader

Follow the leader!

My son’s friends laugh when I say please or thank you to Siri or Google Home. Most of the time I laugh too. I know it’s ridiculous but I’m from the generation where please and thank you are as automatic as a sliding door, so it still surprises me when they’re missing from daily interactions. […]

Get out there

Get out there!

Steve Jobs was famous for his black and white comments and this one is no different. While I don’t entirely agree with him, I think he’s got a valid point. Job’s assertion that we just need diverse experiences to feed our inner muse piqued my interest for a number of reasons – the main one […]

Holy how?

Holy how?

This week, Mike Radparvar of holstee.com referenced the following quote from the film, Waking Life, which really resonated with me: “This moment, it’s holy. But we walk around like it’s not holy.” It’s easy to be conscious of a sacred moment when it’s blowing our hair back with its beauty or its joy or its […]

greatest influence on our happiness

What factor has the greatest influence on our happiness?

Happiness and longevity expert, Dan Buettner, believes we have 50{65e5487b211cf7ed4b44543b61236e65506c2f3f62435269e537cb300d740bc2} control over our happiness and the rest is genetics. So to maximise this variable 50{65e5487b211cf7ed4b44543b61236e65506c2f3f62435269e537cb300d740bc2}, we need to shape our environment by addressing the key external influences on happiness levels: food, shelter, education (ideally tertiary), satisfying work, committed relationship and giving back. And believe it […]

Learning from the Maste

Learning from the Master

As we all know, travel brings out the best and worst in human nature, so as I embarked on a grueling week-long trip of super early morning starts and long days with my client, I wondered if we would still be enjoying each other’s company at the end of the trip as much as we […]

Build that resilience

Build that resilience!

Sitting at the airport recently, I had conversation with a venture capitalist who had experienced a significant financial setback and was struggling to rebuild both his business and his self-esteem. As we got talking it became evident that not only was he silently berating himself for his mistakes, he also felt the judgement of his […]

Pain as a Gift

Pain as a Gift

The truth of quote from Alain De Botton resonates deeply with me. While none of us ever seek to be hurt, often the legacy of deep, personal pain is an increased sensitivity which makes us so much more appreciative of the beauty around us. I know after my sister’s death I thought I’d feel whole […]

When injustice seems unbearable

When injustice seems unbearable

Several months ago I was consumed with the blinding fury that accompanies any gross miscarriage of justice. A client had been sexually assaulted in public and her offender – who is far wealthier and better connected than she is – walked free. Even though eye witnesses and the police gave evidence on her behalf, the […]

Creative Result

Boredom + Tolerance = Creative Result

I was reading an article on boredom recently and it piqued my interest as it quoted a study and statistics on the number of people who would actually, voluntarily, give themselves minor electric shocks, rather than endure fifteen minutes of solitude, with no distractions. The resulting boredom was so much for one particular test subject […]

What does success look like to you

What does success look like to you?

My girlfriend has a conundrum. Her relationships with her husband, kids, family and friends are thriving.  She’s creatively fulfilled. She lives by the beach in northern QLD where she owns her own home and she’s literally a four minute walk from her parents who are needing her support as they age. She also has a […]

Time to say NO

Time to say NO!

“The difference between successful people and really successful people is that really successful people say no to almost everything”. – Warren Buffet I only know of Buffet in his financial capacity as one of the world’s wealthiest men but I agree that being able to say no is also vital for our own personal health […]

Can you believe it?!

Can you believe it?!

I had to go to the GP for a referral last week. I’ve known my local doctor for years and we enjoy friendly banter each time I have an appointment. I expected no different this time around however as he entered the waiting room, which was full, he exclaimed “Oh God, you’ve cut your hair!” […]

hell no

Hell no!!!!

You know that feeling when you hit SEND on a confidential email and then realise it’s gone to the wrong person?? I’m embarrassed to admit it happened to me today and I’m still recovering. As the enormity of my error hit home, I felt that sickening feeling in the stomach, followed by a rush of […]

Are you ready to start being happy?

Are you ready to start being happy?

Famous psychologist, Abraham Maslow, believed the secret to happiness lay in reaching our full potential and that “in any given moment, we have two options: to step forward into growth, or step back into safety. Growth must be chosen again and again; fear must be overcome again and again”. I have never considered myself to […]

But is it worth it??

But is it worth it??

My girlfriend has a rock star job in one of Sydney’s largest agencies and, on the surface, her job looks like a dream come true – fantastic remunderation package, terrific team, great clients and a stunning corner office. BUT, her job also requires her to be ‘on’ at least twelve hourst a day. My girlfriend […]

Five ways to stay balanced in a busy world!

Five ways to stay balanced in a busy world!

Constant connection has some wonderful advantages – think immediate information at our fingertips, Netflix and online shopping – but it also means we’re ‘on’ all the time which puts our body into a state of constant alert unless we develop strategies to consciously bring ourselves back into a state of balance. Even if we’re not […]

Why Spontaneity increases our happiness!

Why Spontaneity increases our happiness!

“Go on, stay the night!” urged my girlfriend. I’d popped over for an early dinner but three hours later we were still chatting and enjoying a bottle of wine. “I can’t! I haven’t got a tooth brush, no fresh clothes, no skin care and I’ve got work to do tomorrow!” “Doesn’t matter, I’ve got all […]

Learn to play games

Learn to play games – it reduces stress and increases satisfaction!

Many of you will have heard of Siimon Reynolds, legendary Australian advertising guru turned business coach. As mentor to many of Australia’s most successful entrepreneurs, Reynolds has some powerful insights into how to reduce stress and create rich, meaningful lives. Accordingly, he’s got some great recommendations for when we’re feeling overwhelmed, particularly in the work […]

7 Happiness tips for today!

7 Happiness tips for today!

I’m a big fan of the Borough Kings’ Instagram page because they’re eternally optimistic with a bit of attitude. They say what they believe without worrying about how it will be received which is a fantastic way to live but it takes awareness and discipline! Even after twelve years of constant practice I still catch […]

Ten habits of popular people

Ten habits of popular people

We’ve all been in a room with those magnetic people who can magically draw a crowd. People who may not be particularly attractive, smart or witty – but they exude the magic quality best described as charisma and we want to be close to them, to connect with them. I’ll never forget meeting Sam Worthington […]

Top 5 Reasons To Smile

Top 5 Reasons to smile every day!

It’s been proven that our body language is intrinsically linked with our mood so it makes sense to smile, even if we’re not feeling happy.  Sure, we may feel a little strange when we first begin this practice but these five benefits of smiling are well worth it! Smiling reduces physical and emotional stress by […]

5 Steps To Optimism

Learn the five steps to optimism!

Optimists enjoy greater health and well-being but what happens if we’re a glass half full type of person? The good news is we can change! Have a look at the three key differences between optimists and pessimists below: Optimists see set-backs as only temporary. Pessimists believe adversity is permanent and joy is fleeting. Optimists mentally […]

A Word A Day Can Change Everything

A word a day can change everything!

My husband is a huge fan of holstee.com, not just for the eternally optimistic editorial but for the new words and soul expanding ideas he finds there. Last week’s word was “sonder” which is defined in the Urban Dictionary as the realization that each random passerby is living a life as vivid and complex as […]

Six big questions to ask yourself today!

Six big questions to ask yourself today!

I love reading or watching interviews with the modern day thought leaders – think Brene Brown, Oprah, Marie Forleo – they inspire me to think bigger and be bolder every time. They communicate their experiences and their knowledge to us with such poise and I marvel at their unwavering self-assurance. Where do they find their […]

Seven ways to be your own best friend

Seven ways to be your own best friend

My sister keeps me updated on the trials and tribulations of her children, most recently her daughter’s devastation at being the odd one out in her group of three girlfriends – always a recipe for heartache! I was amazed at how quickly I identified with her daughter’s loneliness and the pain that comes with individuation […]