“The difference between successful people and really successful people is that really successful people say no to almost everything”. – Warren Buffet
I only know of Buffet in his financial capacity as one of the world’s wealthiest men but I agree that being able to say no is also vital for our own personal health and well-being.
How many times a day do we say ‘yes’ to things we really don’t want to do? How many times do we complete a task out of a misplaced sense of duty, or with undeniable feelings of resentment? We get caught up in being a ‘good’ friend/wife/husband rather than looking after ourselves. We get caught up in what we think we should do, rather than what we actually want to do.
Sure, we will always have professional or familial responsibilities we need to meet but outside of those, we need to stop and check in with ourselves before we agree to anything.
Before agreeing to do a favour for someone, or committing to a particular activity, we need to ask ourselves – does the thought of this action lift my energy? Or does my energy drop at the thought of this?
We’ll know immediately from our gut response whether the action will make us happy or not. And if our energy drops at the thought of something, don’t do it!!
Life these days is too short and too busy to waste time doing anything that doesn’t serve us. If we’re seeking a genuinely happier and more fulfilling life, we need to value ourselves enough to say no to anything that doesn’t fulfill, enrich motivate or satisfy us.
It takes courage to say no and trust that our friends and family will still love us, to accept that we can’t please all the people all the time and to put our own needs first, but it’s a fundamental requirement if we’re serious about creating a happy life for ourselves.