Happy people are busy, not rushed. They have a sense of purpose and they meet their goals and obligations at a measured pace so they feel satisfied and fulfilled, rather than stressed and overwhelmed.
How do they do it? They say ‘yes’ to the things that lift their energy and ‘no’ to what drains them. It’s all about discernment.
Happy people enjoy a minimum of five close relationships with others. Relationships give us a sense of belonging and connection which improves our quality of life and studies show that “when someone claims to have five or more friends with whom they can discuss important problems, they are 60 percent more likely to say they are ‘very happy’”. (Finding Flow: The Psychology of Engagement with Everyday Life).
Happy people move. They’re not manic. They don’t bust their gut but they exercise moderately – knowing it gets the endorphins going tomake them feel good and improve body image and self-esteem.
Happy people don’t look to anything outside of themselves for joy – they know it’s an inside job. Yes, relationships and fulfilling jobs enrich our lives, but genuine and lasting joy comes from a deep knowledge of ourselves, and acceptance and love of all that we are – both our strengths and our weaknesses. Happy people embrace them all.
Happy people welcome new experiences and are okay with being uncomfortable while they learn. They trust that they will manage whatever is required of them, rather than fret over what they don’t know. They trust that with time they will feel at ease with new skills and expectation.
Happy people spend money on experiences rather than material goods. Why? Because experiences last longer. They give us memories and recollections to share and reflect on. They give us opportunities to stretch ourselves, to move out of our comfort zones and to grow.
So what can you do this week to nurture yourself? Tofoster your friendships? To stretch yourself and create new experiences? Small steps create big change. Enjoy! Jx